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Monday, September 27, 2010

The meaning of "transfer"

(cross post from my other blog for those who read both.)

What does it  mean when us adoption bloggers refer to a child who is "in danger of being transferred"? It countries in Eastern Europe, that usually means that the child is going to be transferred to a mental institution, and most of the time they are  not able to be adopted out of those institutions.

The facilities in Eastern Europe are divided by age groups, and they vary a bit depending up what country and region they're in, but for the most part, they are birth-4 or 6 years old. Whatever the top age is, that is the "transfer" age.

In most facilities, birthdays aren't "celebrated",  especially transfer birthdays. If it is a transfer to an institution where they cannot be adopted out of, for those with disabilities that is no different than a death sentence. The child, along with his file, is loaded into a car (often for the first time ever in his entire life!) and driven to the next facility. Sometimes the difference in the level of care in the new place is so dramatic the child looses the will to live within days or weeks.

I want you to do me a favor. Take just a few minutes and read this post. It is not going to be easy to read. If you're like me, you're going to need tissues to read it. You may need to walk away from it for a minute, (As I thought of George, I had to walk away because I was physically ill.) but please come back and finish reading it.  Please...for them...come back and finish reading.

1 comment:

Ali said...

I've been unofficially following both your blogs for about a week now. Your daughter is beautiful, as is your soon-to-be daughter! I had heard about the mistreatment of EE orphans, but the horror didn't become fully real until I saw the images from the video you posted. I am currently praying for a EE baby with Apert Syndrome, hoping God will soften my husband's heart. Do you have a place where someone can donate for your adoption of Ianna?