tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post4051456070930908110..comments2024-02-25T21:33:44.400-06:00Comments on Garden of Eagan: Ramblings from this morningLeah Springhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02326240393099112570noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-30837247107315278792011-08-10T11:34:21.852-05:002011-08-10T11:34:21.852-05:00reading this late but i want to say
Bravo ...reading this late but i want to say <br /><br /> Bravo great post i agree with uAZ Chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07649451111980332722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-52200209550616564332011-08-08T14:06:45.791-05:002011-08-08T14:06:45.791-05:00Bravo lady. I've been trying to explain this t...Bravo lady. I've been trying to explain this to my husband and while he gets it to a certain degree, I wish I could communicate this to my (DS)step-son's mother who, whilst she tends most of his needs (he lives with her far away from us), does not feel the need to teach him to talk, count, read or interact with other people. Nor will she acknowledge when I try or any of our work with him. It just gets ignored. He can program a DVD player at 10 paces but he spends all day watching TV and drawing in his room. I've known him for 8 years and he's regressed in that time, has become obese, is fixated with TV and more. I've struggled ever since I've known him to get people to give him more (time, attention, skills) so that he can be more. No-one wants to hear it and mostly because they are just too lazy. It's easier to put on the damn TV and throw him the remote. Who knows what his life will be but he surely will never realize anything close to his potential. I am and will always be sad about that, and to some degree culpable also, despite my best efforts to get anyone to listen. It could make me cry.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17235806439039865870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-85704744014242336282011-08-06T15:15:35.891-05:002011-08-06T15:15:35.891-05:00Leah,
This post (by another RR family) seems to b...Leah,<br /><br />This post (by another RR family) seems to be a response to your (excellent) post:<br /><br />http://www.minivansandmomjeans.com/2011/08/how-can-we-know.html<br /><br />I left a comment* noting that the main difference between the "preparedness" of adoptive vs biological parents of kids with social needs is the level if outside scrutiny -- by social <br />workers, homestudy agencies, state and federal governments (fingerprints, security clearances, etc), the government of the country from which you are trying to adopt, etc. <br /><br />I mean, what is the point of OODLES of scrutiny if not to ensure that the adoptive parents of a kiddo with special needs are as prepared as humanly possible to care for them?<br /><br /><br /><br />* which hasn't yet appeared... The comments are moderated, so I am hoping it will appear soon.Roxy Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09356185823010820676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-59342178994064167462011-08-05T23:02:14.943-05:002011-08-05T23:02:14.943-05:00Im like you in the way that I need to know what I ...Im like you in the way that I need to know what I am looking at. I need to know what, when and how to deal, teach, learn and give. I like to know all of my options and I like to know where to start with those options. I love reading your blog because often you will mention things things that I have to look up to understand. Our children are far apart in age but many times, your writing prepares me in ways that books can not. ;)Twilson9608https://www.blogger.com/profile/05245911547204280399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-43020444496812937372011-08-05T22:40:44.436-05:002011-08-05T22:40:44.436-05:00Well, you know that I agree :)Well, you know that I agree :)Speechlesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17533338473604360140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-44992119059429953682011-08-05T16:08:15.603-05:002011-08-05T16:08:15.603-05:00AMEN!! From an adoptive mom who runs a Group Home ...AMEN!! From an adoptive mom who runs a Group Home for adults with disabilities (many with DS) in MN.<br />And yes why are those hospitals in the high crime area?elizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16376096667336921796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-22567780532009688982011-08-05T13:29:52.801-05:002011-08-05T13:29:52.801-05:00And then, there are places where you try to get se...And then, there are places where you try to get services for your adopted child and they have the guts to tell you they do not qualify for services (picture me rolling my eyes) I guess having Cerebral Palsy and spending 4 years in an orphanage was not enough.Ellen Stumbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02883373231740515881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-23160879843098415522011-08-05T11:41:32.006-05:002011-08-05T11:41:32.006-05:00Please tell me its a small number of people who ar...Please tell me its a small number of people who are doing this?! I am shocked yet should I be? I have a friend who refused specialists, ECI and any therapy for her child because she thought therapy was stupid and wouldnt work. Here I am fighting to get my child more services and better care, almost daily fighting. I also refuse to go to the hospital 20 mins away because it does not give my son the best care instead I travel new roads for over an hour with 5 kids to get the kind of care my baby deserves. <br /><br />Our children only do so well because we are getting them the services they need and pushing them and the therapists and the doctors to do better. <br /><br />Be blessed<br /><br />AshleeLinneahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15333442830705285496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-89891541990946162592011-08-05T10:08:12.088-05:002011-08-05T10:08:12.088-05:00I've been trying to think which of your posts ...I've been trying to think which of your posts is my favorite. I've been reading over 3 years now and there are lots, but this one is definitely in my top 5.<br />I am not an adoptive parent, but I love adoption. I want to "save" ALL these kids, but realize it's just not that easy. I appreciate that you say the hard things and how you love both your kids at home (and the other boys too of course.)<br />Love, KelleyKelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12436940857518345012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-48386231405706175032011-08-05T09:20:41.009-05:002011-08-05T09:20:41.009-05:00Thank you for posting this. I read your blog all t...Thank you for posting this. I read your blog all the time and have never commented until now. I read adoption blogs and often think people must idealize what it will be like when the child gets home. I'm in the process of adopting, and it's been hard, but I know the real work starts when the child gets home. Sometimes it seems like adoptive parents get the child home and think the work is over and life goes "back to normal", meaning the way it used to be. How many times have you read someone say they can't wait til things settle down and go "back to normal"? I always read that and think, there is no "back to normal"! I think people get caught up in trying to "do the right thing" by adopting a child in need but aren't prepared to actually parent the child's needs once the child is home.ahomeforivan@yahoo.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10518905159026903915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-80478200868044394022011-08-05T05:48:25.143-05:002011-08-05T05:48:25.143-05:00You have to be kidding. I obviously haven't re...You have to be kidding. I obviously haven't read the blogs you read, but it makes no sense to me that someone would be so adverse to driving into a city that they would ignore a child's medical needs. But, then, unlike you, I've never understood how early intervention services can be viewed as intrusive. I went after anything that could help my kid that had some decent research behind it and I could afford. And to not do whatever you can to help a child communicate has never made sense to me. That's just cruel. A person needs to communicate. Even if it wasn't working, I think I'd keep trying. How frustrating to not be able to make someone understand your basic needs.Tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04624151975591059655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13970003.post-802330843761321992011-08-05T05:32:49.253-05:002011-08-05T05:32:49.253-05:00Thank you for this post, Leah. It's convictin...Thank you for this post, Leah. It's convicting to me in a good way. I'm glad you always have the guts to say what we need to hear.<br /><br />I don't have anyone for my friday feature today. Would love to repost this if you don't mind. Let me know. gillian@rcn.comgillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16388843035018332740noreply@blogger.com